How To Keep A Long Distance Friendship Close

How To Keep A Long Distance Friendship Close
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How To Keep A Long Distance Friendship Close

The older we get the more likely friends have started to move away, start families and pursue new career and life paths. With that, it can be hard to stay in touch with friends. I think it’s the ultimate test of a friendship. Can you stay connected after a big move or life change? If you can, I think it says a lot about your friendship. But when I look back at those friendships that have survived move after move, career change after career change, there are a few common threads in those friendships.

I think those common threads are the key to maintaining long distance friendships. Or even just friends whose lives are going in a different direction and therefor you may not maintain the same circle anymore. I always say that friendships are work. They’re much like dating. You get out of it what you put in to it. With many of my closest friends living in brand new cities, or starting families or getting married, I wanted to share 5 ways to stay connected with long distance friends.

PS I asked my readers what they do and am sharing a few of their tips too!

A Few Ideas To Stay Connected In Your Long Distance Friendships

Snail Mail

This was hands down the most common suggestion I received from readers and 100% agree. I’m not much of a card person. You won’t ever get a birthday card from me, but I’ll most definitely send you a “thinking of you” card on a random Tuesday. And to me that matters most. They make someone smile on a random day that they weren’t expecting it. It makes them know that you’re thinking about them and it can speak mounds without having to say a word. Plus, stationery cards are SO pretty. I rounded up a few favorites at the end of today’s post!

“Handwritten mail goes a long way in my opinion since there is a bit more effort involved” – Karly of What Karly Said

Group Text

Since group texts are so popular (I pride myself on being the official namer of group texts) this is also a great way to keep a group of friends communicating often. If you don’t like all the notifications you can definitely mute the conversation and catch up when you can. My group text with my #BloggersDoTravel girlfriends is always going off and then I’ve got my handful of girlfriends in Atlanta and we stay connected on that daily. Sometimes we can’t all get together for dinner, and we all have such different schedules. Group texts allow us to share throughout the day and there’s no pressure in responding immediately or everyone being in the conversation all at once. But it’s a way to feel together as a group in a sense without physically being together.

Plan A Trip

Remember this post on reasons to take a girls trip? Well, this is it! Staying connected with friends on an annual trip that you can prioritize every year is a great option. It doesn’t even have to be a big trip either. A quick drive to the mountains or beach for a weekend is all you need. It will help to revitalize your friendships and help create memories that will last you until the next year you get together. I think doing something annually (or however frequently you like) helps to add a level of importance to it. Knowing that it’s signifcant to you and your friends you’ll make it a priority to save for the trip and take the necessary time off to make it work.

Schedule Dates

If you live in the same city but just lead very different lives and schedules, planning scheduled dates is best. If it’s Monday night Bachelor viewings, or rotating dinner hosting, having something planned and consistent will hold everyone accountable. I love the idea of rotating homemade dinners once a month. It’s a great way to try out new recipes and enjoy each others company at home where you can relax and unwind without the pressures of spending a ton of money at a restaurant.

“Planning dates out helps the most because we all have families and need advance notice” – Julia of Glitter & Juls

Pick Up The Phone

It’s unheard of these days to actually ANSWER your phone. But something I tried to do more in 2018 and also this year for part of my goals was to get off my phone more (texting, Instagram, work) and instead pick up the phone and foster friendships and relationships. Not everyone likes talking on the phone every single day. But maybe make an effort once a week or once a month to call your friends and just chat. Sometimes those are the best few hours you can do for your friendships. Facetime is also a fun way to stay connected and share what’s going on in your life.

How do you stay connected with long distance friends?

Photos by Julie Livingston Photography

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  1. Lisa Autumn wrote:

    Ahhhh such a beautiful post girl! Here’s to friendship 🙂

    x Lisa |

    Posted 1.24.19 Reply
    • Jessica wrote:

      Yes!! Thanks for reading along.

      Posted 1.24.19 Reply
  2. Emma Marie wrote:

    I love these! I have a group chat with 2 of my long distance friends and we’re spread out in NC, NYC, and CA (so it’s very hard to travel all the time with our jobs!) Whenever I notice that someone is having a rough week or a really bad day I’ll send them $5-10 via the Starbucks app for them to get a coffee on me. It makes me feel like I’m able to be there in a way.

    xo, Emma

    Posted 1.24.19 Reply
  3. Karly wrote:

    Thanks for the shoutout, girl! This was a great post. I’m 100% guilty about the phone thing – I hate talking on the phone, but maybe it’s something I need to commit to once a month or so to better connect with friends.

    Posted 1.24.19 Reply
    • Jessica wrote:

      I started using my Airpods so when I do get on the phone I can walk around my house. It makes it easier to chat a lot longer than just sitting there holding a phone!

      Posted 1.24.19 Reply
  4. Laura Leigh wrote:

    Absolutely love this Jess! Great tips and recommendations. I definitely need to start more group texts with my girl friends and schedule weekly dates for simple things. Also, more snail mail!

    xo Laura Leigh
    Louella Reese

    Posted 1.24.19 Reply
    • Jessica wrote:

      Yes to snail mail! It’s a great excuse to buy all that cute stationery!

      Posted 1.24.19 Reply
  5. Caitlin wrote:

    My girlfriends and I are in 3 different time zones (Canada, England, and Australia!) so we figured out the one time of the week that works for all 4 of us and then schedule a 4-way Zoom video conference call every month or two.

    Posted 1.24.19 Reply
    • Jessica wrote:

      I love that! What crazy time zones to deal with too.

      Posted 1.24.19 Reply